As Coach Carr said in “Mean Girls,” “Don’t have sex, because you will get pregnant and die! Don’t have sex in the missionary position, don’t have sex standing up, just don’t do it, OK, promise?”
Basically, Coach Carr is trying to promote abstinence.
According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, abstinence is “the practice of not doing or having something that is wanted or enjoyable.” More specifically, people often abstain from food, drugs, alcohol and, of course, sex.
There are many reasons why people choose to abstain from sex. For one, it prevents both pregnancies and STIs. Some people choose to be abstinent because of religious reasons and wait to have sex until marriage.
Sometimes, choosing abstinence is more complicated. Of course, I definitely do not want to get someone pregnant or contract an infection, but I’m not sure I care about waiting until I’m married to have sex.
That’s a big misconception people have about abstinence. It’s just a period of time that a person decides not to have sex. There isn’t a specific time frame that comes with it. You can decide how long or short of a period you want to be abstinent for.
It’s easier for me to be abstinent right now for a few reasons. To start, I want to have sex with someone who I am in a relationship with.
Although sex is a physical activity, there’s a large mental and emotional component that should be a part of it too. This latter component isn’t always present in hookups as it usually is in relationships.
However, I don’t want to focus my time and effort in a relationship while I’m in college. As a pre-med biology major and honors student, I have a lot to worry about. I’m trying to set myself up to live a successful life where I am happy with my career.
My goal at the moment is to get an education, not a wife. If I’m looking for a girlfriend, then I’m looking for a future wife who I can spend the rest of my life with.
Plus, to have a good relationship, you have to spend a lot of time getting to know someone. In my field of study, there’s not much time to get to know myself let alone another person.
Nevertheless, things happen when you least expect it, so I would make time to be with someone if the right person came along.
Some people might say there’s nothing wrong with having fun while waiting to find “the one;” I just want to have fun with the right person.
Plus, I need to be comfortable enough with someone before I expose my whole naked body to them (and no, I won’t keep some of my clothes on or turn the lights off; if you want to see me, you better be prepared to see all of me).
If that can happen, then everything else physical will fall into place naturally.
When I find someone, I don’t want to be comparing our sex life to previous sexual encounters I’ve had because that could be damaging to our relationship.
The thing is, nowadays it seems like you can’t have a relationship without there being pressure to have sex very soon into it.
This shit is so complicated that it’s just easier to not worry about it at all for now. So, I’m just going to keep focusing on school and continue being single and abstinent.
